It's time to set some guilt aside.
It's ok if you are a working momma who enjoys your job and you don't feel guilty about it. You've worked hard to build a career and build a family. You might not always feel like you have it together but you're happy with what works for your family. You do your best every single day to be present in all aspects of your life. Most days, you feel like a rockstar even though people don't get why you do what you do. It's ok.
It's ok if you are working momma who doesn't love your job or loves your job and longs to be home with your babies. You might watch the clock impatiently all day, busting out of the office as soon as you are able to try and beat the daycare rush. You might long for another opportunity. You might turn down requests for happy hour with co-workers because that time with your children is just too precious. People don't understand. But that's ok.
It's ok if you were a working momma and you decided to put aside your career to stay home with your babies. You may have various reasons for this decision. It was maybe out of necessity. It was maybe your way out of a crummy job. It was maybe the universe telling you life was too short. You still think about having a career and sometimes you miss it. Sometimes you really have to step back and remind yourself why you are at home with your kids. And that's ok.
It's ok if you are a work at home momma and you are trying to make the best of it. You are trying to be present for your job and present for your home and family. More often than not, one thing is interrupting the other. You may work that at home job out of monetary necessity or you may work it because you enjoy having something for you. You might feel half complete most of the time because nothing is getting your full attention. At the end of the day, you accomplished a lot, and that's ok.
It's ok if you are a stay at home momma and your kids are your everything. You were born to rock this path and you love to soak up every minute with your littles. You might resist posting pictures on Facebook in fear you will be called a "Pinterest mom" who does crafts, cooks great meals, and finds utter joy in every moment. Guess what, momma? Rock that side of yourself. This is what you were meant to do. Not everyone will understand. There might even be times that you don't feel awesome, but it's ok.
It's ok if you are a stay at home momma and your kids drive you crazy. You might have made the choice to stay home out of necessity or because you thought it was best for your family. You do your best every single day but most days, you feel like you are failing. You ask yourself if this is really the best path for your family. You awake each day with the idea that you are going to try your best. I'm here to tell you, momma, chances are you're not failing like you think you are. It's ok.
Yes. Take a breath. It's ok.
It's ok because no matter what kind of mom you are, those little kiddos love you. They look to you to mold their world. You are their rock. You are their safe place. You are their right and wrong. You are their teacher. You are their example. You are their strength. You are their light. That's right momma, you. Even when you aren't perfect.
They don't care about this guilt that you are harboring. They don't think you are failing. They don't care what kind of mom you are or what kind of job you have. They want you to be the best mom that you can be. At the end of the day, no matter how much time you spend with your kids, how much time did you spend being loving? Yes, even when they drive you bat shit crazy.
So I leave you with this. Let go of that guilt. You're on the path you were meant to be on. And if you feel you're on the wrong path, change it. You're not a tree. Every day you have the ability to make a different choice that better fits your needs. A choice that can lead you to be the mom you were meant to be.